Archive for the ‘Mental Health’ Category

(The following is from the publication Gentle Care: Changing the Experience of Alzheimer’s Disease in a Positive Way, Moyra Jones, 1999)

Guilt is…

The Clash sing “Should I stay or should I go?”  and for many of us we can relate to the back and forth that can occur in our thinking when we are faced with a decision to be made.

Why is it so hard to make decisions sometimes?

When we are overwhelmed we may be looking at decision-making from a fear based perspective “what will I lose” rather than from the possibilities that can occur through change.

Often decisions we reach will be of a black and white nature – stay or go – and has elements of fear which may keep thinking we are “safe” from the unknown while keeping us stuck in a current situation.

Within the song by the Clash the lyrics suggest that the “other” should decide if the relationship should continue, another way we often avoid making our own decisions – let others do it for us.

Separating interests from actual issues involved in the decisions is important and can be challenging; what are we holding on to?  what are our fears about the decision to be made?  Are we unable to make a decision because we think “others” will condemn us?  How will our decisions affect the self and others?  Is our thinking realistic?

It is helpful to talk to a friend, supportive person or therapist to help unravel our decision-making and look at situations we are facing from a broader perspective.

Self care in the way of breathing, relaxation technique, mindfulness,  talking to supportive others and walking in nature can be helpful to quiet our thinking and help us open our mind to possibilities.

Get help if you are unable to make the simplest of decisions – a clear symptom of stress and possible depression and one that should not be ignored.

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How to quiet our thinking…

Loved the ideas expressed in the Vancouver Sun, Oct. 6/12, Arts & Life D3

“Once we stop distracting the brain with everyday worries…ideas that are constantly fired at us…come into our awareness”

Yet how do we do this?

The key is to quiet the left side of the brain – the more logical, analytical and objective, to allow the right side -more intuitive, thoughtful and subjective to do its magic and help us be more open and creative with solutions!

Quiet time is a must and you need 10-20 minutes per day to help your brain function well,  the points mentioned in the article based on a study at Temple University included the need on a daily basis to;

Be alone

Get silent – turn off external stimulis – phones etc -*Unless you are using a guided imagery, mindfulness or other cd/recording

Sit up – very important as it can be very tempting to lay down and sleep often takes over

Ground your body – think of your feet attached to the ground, your buttocks firm on the chair, arms resting at sides

Breathe– in though the nose, down to the belly, out through the mouth,  focus on breath when your mind wanders bring it back to the breath

After 10-20 minutes open your eyes and stretch, check in with your body and brain

There are good youtube downloads that are helpful to clear the mind using Guided Imagery/Mindfulness Technique; A walk in the country, Connect to higher self, Mindfulness meditation body scan and many others.  CD’s can be purchased that promote meditative mindfulness – check the voice and quality first before you buy.

A wonderful yoga to download from youtube that my sister located is Esther Eckhart – I love her Bedtime Yoga.  The great part about youtube is the downloads are free although the quality can be patchy.

For more information or a counselling appointment I can be contacted at 604-785-4359 or email barblarkin@shaw.ca

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Dealing with mental health issues – whether for yourself or a loved one the following websites could be helpful-

www.cmha.ca The Canadian Mental Health Association has Family & Caregiver Support information

www.cmha.bc.ca A link just for B.C.

www.camh.ca  Centre for Addiction and Mental Health – up to date information on addiction and mental health

www.beingthereguide.com A comprehensive guide to “being there” with someone with mental health issues

www.bcss.org The B.C. Schizohrenia Society is a great family resource/support regardless of diagnosis

www.anxietybc.ca Good information for individual coping with anxiety

www.alzheimer.ca Great information about aging/dementia for the caregiver and others

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Partners and significant others of a new mother should expect some level of emotional challenges after birth of baby– approximately 80% of new mothers experience baby blues or postpartum depression (PPD)

Baby Blues occur within a week or two of birth and last 3 weeks or so

A new mother may be sad and weepy and this is largely due to her birth experience, new demands, little sleep,  and concern about (often spouses) support or lack of

Baby blues can be considered normal and  in most cases won’t last more than a few weeks

Postpartum Depression affects 15% of new moms and has been described as “baby blues on steroids”

Persistent sad mood, irritable, short-tempered, may feel hopeless, sleeping too much or too little, finds chores and routine difficult to manage

Worried and anxious about harm coming to baby and/or not coping with new demands of motherhood

Often begins to feel detachment from the baby – “Things were so much better before…”

Partners, Family, Friends can help

Seek help: help her find a physician, psychiatrist and therapist that understands and can treat postpartum depression, locate community based resources

Understand that medication may be very helpful, even for women who are pregnant and/or breastfeeding

Let her express feelings of anxiety and fear freely

Encourage her to exercise and take time for self

Encourage her to attend a support group

Help her develop a schedule that simplifies her daily routine

Praise her when she makes an effort – no matter how small

Help to manage family/friend help/support

(Try) not to take her irritability personally

Practical suggestions

Let her sleep at night!  Cook a meal, take her out

Take the baby, other children, out for a short time at least once a week

Run her a bath, tell her to have some down-time

Help her to get the children ready when you are all going out

Share the chores more.  Notice all the extra tasks she does

Buy flowers or a surprise

Tell her that you appreciate her and for what

Things to keep in mind….

You (or the baby) did not cause her illness and cannot take it away it is a bio-chemical disorder

Get the support you need so you can be there for her

Lower your expectations – household, appearance etc

Many women will “pretend” they feel better before they are not so ask her how she is feeling, communicate, listen

Couples need alone time to connect emotionally, physically

Things will get back to “normal”  but will take time

*Contact me via email at barblarkin@shaw.ca or phone 604-785-4359 for more information if you think you or your partner is experiencing postpartum depression or symptoms of anxiety and would like to set up a private counselling appointment

(Information contained in this blog has been gleaned from information offered through B.C. Women’s Hospital www.bcwomens.ca, Postpartum Dads

www.postpartumdads.org and through other sources gathered through my work with women experiencing postpartum depression)

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